ABOUT MONICA STANESCU
My interest in psychology and therapeutical approaches sparked about twenty years ago. Going through various adverse childhood experiences, being surrounded by unhealthy behaviours, and displaying unhealthy behaviours, understanding the mind and behaviours become something of high interest. Hence, I went to study psychology, and this was amazing! However, I needed to figure out what path to follow next. I wanted to study clinical psychology, but I was looking for more, so I decided to go and work in the Human Resources and Recruitment field. This time of my life was truly spectacular! I worked and met so many wonderful people (I still carry some wisdom from that time. My favourite is: “I am too poor to buy cheap shoes”, and I genuinely believe it, but I also love shoes, so it’s a good excuse when I want to buy another pair). I developed good diplomacy and professional skills, learned to adjust my communication skills, and developed people skills, which, over time, correlated with a high level of empathy and authenticity and became my strength as a person and now as a therapist.
Time went on, and when I found a Health Psychology course, it felt like the right approach to follow. I always believed in the biopsychosocial approach, that the environment we grow and live in is essential to our becoming. That was the time when I truly understood how traumatic it has been to receive the diagnosis of a chronic condition in my early twenties, how it has impacted my identity as a woman and how it took over my being and my life. I went through all the stages of grief, and it turned my world apart. But with great support around me, therapy, and friends, I managed to rebuild myself, the way I feel about myself. This time, in a conscious manner, by my values and beliefs, and my wishes for the future, how I wanted to conduct my life.Right after I received my MSc qualification, I started to work as a Specialist Mentor, providing emotional support for students all over the UK. When I studied for my undergraduate, I remember feeling my mind was so scattered, I had no notion of time management or prioritisation, struggling to study, focus and lacking motivation for a proactive approach to preparation ahead exams. I would end up not sleeping well, not eating the last two days before exams, and struggling to study.
Now, I understand that I needed guidance and support, and nowadays, someone does not need to spend years trying to change unhealthy beliefs and behaviours to healthy ones. You need the right support, tailored to your unique needs at that time. Hence, being able to work with students holds such a meaningful place in my heart. In my search to develop as an individual and professional, I started to study counselling. The counselling course was mind-blowing from a personal development perspective. I had to go back to therapy to process, challenge and integrate old, deeply ingrained beliefs. At a professional level, developing and applying the person centred approach made such a difference, but soon, I identified a new obstacle: trauma. Hence, I studied and integrated a trauma-informed, somatic psychotherapy course, which allows a whole exploration, beautifully exploring emotional beliefs and their expression throughout somatic work. This approach enables a healthy and rapid process and integration of our lived experiences.
Studying Cognitive-Behavioural Hypnotherapy was the cherry on top! I have always been fascinated by hypnotherapy, and it felt it would beautifully complete my set of skills to be able to offer a safe space and contain any challenge that one might bring into the therapeutical space, completing the process with enhancing self-confidence and self-esteem through deep suggestions right to the core of being. I now have well-rounded skills and professional expertise to support people in their transformative journey. But the most important thing is that I have grown so much due to all the knowledge I’ve accumulated, enhanced by my high level of empathy and non-judgment. I am currently enrolled as a trainee counsellor studying Level 5 and I am integrating the person centred approach not only in my professional life but in my personal one, it is a life style! I am happy to share this with anyone who might need a safe space to figure out ways to overcome emotional obstacles or to live well with daily stuff like managing stress, having to deliver a presentation, or managing social-romantic-family relationships.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know me. I look forward to hearing your story!
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The Process of Change: How Therapy Fosters Growth and Transformation
The Process of Change: How Therapy Fosters Growth and Transformation
Introduction
Change is an inevitable part of life, yet it is often accompanied by uncertainty and resistance. Whether we seek transformation due to personal struggles, emotional distress, or a desire for self-improvement, the process of change can feel overwhelming. Fortunately, therapy provides a structured and supportive environment to facilitate meaningful and lasting change.
In this blog, we explore how therapy supports the process of change and how the therapeutic relationship itself can be a powerful catalyst for transformation.
The Role of the Therapeutic Relationship
One of the most crucial elements of therapy is the relationship between the client and therapist. A strong, trusting connection allows individuals to feel safe as they explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. According to Carl Rogers, a pioneering figure in psychology, three essential elements must exist within this relationship to promote positive change:
1. Unconditional Positive Regard
Clients need to feel accepted, valued, and respected, regardless of their thoughts, feelings, or past experiences. When individuals are met with nonjudgmental support, they are more likely to embrace their vulnerabilities and work toward self-improvement.
2. Empathy
A therapist’s ability to truly understand and validate a client’s emotions fosters trust and connection. Empathy encourages individuals to express themselves freely, knowing that they are being heard and understood without fear of criticism.
3. Congruence (Authenticity)
A therapist’s genuineness and transparency set the foundation for an open and honest dialogue. When a therapist models authenticity, clients feel encouraged to bring their true selves into the therapeutic space.
The Stages of Change in Therapy
While each person’s journey is unique, the process of change often follows a pattern. Psychologists Prochaska and DiClemente developed the Stages of Change Model, which outlines the phases individuals go through when making significant life changes:
Precontemplation – At this stage, individuals may not recognize the need for change or may feel resistant to it. Therapy helps bring awareness to patterns that may be holding them back.
Contemplation – Clients begin to acknowledge the need for change but may still feel uncertain or ambivalent. Therapists support clients in exploring their motivations and potential barriers.
Preparation – At this point, individuals are ready to take steps toward change. Therapy helps them set realistic goals and create actionable plans.
Action – Clients actively implement new behaviors and coping strategies. The therapist provides guidance, encouragement, and accountability.
Maintenance – Sustaining change is often the most challenging phase. Therapy helps reinforce progress, prevent relapse, and build resilience for the future.
Overcoming Resistance to Change
Even when we want to change, it can feel difficult and uncomfortable. Our minds are wired to seek familiarity and security, making new behaviors feel uncertain. Therapy provides strategies to navigate this resistance, such as:
Identifying limiting beliefs – Exploring self-doubt and fears that may be preventing change.
Practicing self-compassion – Accepting that setbacks are part of the journey.
Building self-awareness – Understanding triggers and patterns that need to be addressed.
Developing coping strategies – Learning techniques to manage stress, anxiety, or other emotions tied to change.
Final Thoughts
Change is a journey, not a destination. While it may come with challenges, the right support system can make a profound difference. Therapy offers a safe and structured environment where individuals can explore their struggles, embrace authenticity, and develop the skills needed for meaningful transformation.
If you’re looking to navigate change in your life, seeking professional support can be an empowering step toward growth and healing.
