ABOUT MONICA STANESCU
Thank you for taking the time to get to know me. I look forward to hearing your story!
What’s your frame of reference?
How aware are you of your values? Which moral guidelines do you follow? How do you ground yourself in reality?
These are only a few essential questions that could help you assess where you stand regarding healthy perceptions. In previous blogs, I discussed the conditions of worth developed in childhood – as young people, some of us develop beliefs based on external expectations and evaluations. That’s quite alright; a child or an adolescent wouldn’t have the maturity to reach a “reality check” on their own if they lack support at home or outside the home.
However, as an adult, you are responsible for looking after yourself and having a “reality check” of where you are and where and how you would like to be. I am aware it’s easier said than done, but regardless of how slow the progress is, it's healthier to start rather than continue living in blurred and unclear frames of reference. This is what leads to psychological distress and even mental illness.
Wishy-washy attitudes, looseness, and double standards applied whenever it feels convenient lead to confusion, increased anxiety, having boundaries crossed, and getting emotionally hurt (maybe even physically), to the extent of experiencing at least a depressive episode, if not depression as a disorder. It is crucial to identify what shades of grey sit well with you from that whole spectrum between white and black, and as long as they serve you, do your best to stick to those. Allow yourself to reevaluate once in a while, and if needed, why not change the frame of reference?
Be kind to yourself and seek support!
💎 At The Therapeutic Triad – online therapy services, we offer a safe space based on empathy and nonjudgment. In this space, you are welcomed to learn more about yourself and identify strategies to provoke beneficial change according to your needs.
📣 For a limited time, we are offering 25% off therapy sessions for specific categories of people! Use discount code TRAID25 at checkout.
💎 Book your session at www.therapeutictriad.com and take the first step toward a healthier and happier self.