ABOUT MONICA STANESCU
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My interest in psychology and therapeutic approaches sparked about twenty years ago. Going through various adverse childhood experiences, being surrounded by unhealthy behaviours, and displaying unhealthy behaviours, understanding the mind and human behaviours becomes something of high interest. Hence, I went on to study Psychology, and I found it amazing! I initially wanted to study clinical psychology, but I was looking for more, so I decided to pursue a career in the Human Resources and Recruitment field. This time of my life was truly spectacular! I worked and met so many wonderful people. I still carry some wisdom from that time. My favourite is: “I am too poor to buy cheap shoes”, and I genuinely believe it, but I also love shoes, so it’s a good excuse when I want to buy another pair. I developed strong diplomatic and professional skills, learned to adjust my communication style, and refined my people skills, which, over time, correlated with a high level of empathy and authenticity, becoming my strengths as a person and now as a therapist.
Time passed, and when I discovered a Health Psychology Master's at the University of the West of England, it felt like the right approach to follow. I have always believed in the biopsychosocial approach, which holds that the environment in which we grow and live is essential to our development. That was the time when I truly understood how traumatic it had been to receive the diagnosis of a chronic condition in my early twenties, how it had impacted my identity as a woman and how it had taken over my being and my life. I went through all the stages of grief, and it turned my world upside down. But with great support around me, therapy, and friends, I managed to rebuild myself, the way I feel about myself. This time, in a conscious manner, by my values and beliefs, my wishes for the future, and how I wanted to conduct my life. Immediately after receiving my MSc qualification, I began working as a Specialist Mentor, providing mental and emotional support to students who are challenged by various disabilities, long-term conditions, and/or learning difficulties. When I studied for my undergraduate degree, I remember feeling that my mind was scattered. I had no notion of time management or prioritisation, struggled to study and focus, and lacked motivation for a proactive approach to preparation ahead of exams. I would end up not sleeping well, not eating the last two days before exams, and struggling to study.
Now, I understand that I needed guidance and support, and nowadays, someone does not need to spend years trying to change unhealthy beliefs and behaviours to healthy ones. You need the right support, tailored to your unique needs at that time. Hence, working with students holds a significant place in my heart. In my quest to develop as an individual and professional, I began studying the Person-Centred Approach (more commonly known as counselling). The counselling course was mind-blowing from a personal development perspective. I had to go back to therapy to process, challenge and integrate old, deeply ingrained beliefs. At a professional level, developing and applying the Person-Centred Approach made a significant difference; however, I soon identified a new obstacle: trauma. Hence, I studied and integrated a one-year Trauma-Informed and Somatic Psychotherapy course, which allowed for a thorough exploration of emotional experiences and their expression through somatic work. This approach enables a healthy and rapid process and integration of our lived experiences.
Studying Cognitive-Behavioural Hypnotherapy was the cherry on top! I have always been fascinated by hypnotherapy, and I believe it would beautifully complement my set of skills to be able to offer a safe space and contain any challenges that one might bring into the therapeutic setting, thereby enhancing the process by deepening self-confidence and self-esteem through targeted suggestions that reach the core of being. I now possess well-rounded skills and professional expertise to support individuals in their transformative journeys. However, the most important thing is that I have grown significantly due to the extensive knowledge I’ve accumulated, which my high level of empathy and non-judgmental approach have enhanced. I am currently enrolled as a trainee counsellor studying at Level 5, and I am integrating the person-centred approach not only in my professional life but also in my personal one; it has become a lifestyle. I am happy to share this with anyone who might need a safe space to figure out ways to overcome emotional obstacles or to live well with daily challenges, such as managing stress, delivering a presentation, or navigating social, romantic, and family relationships.
Thank you for taking the time to get to know me. I look forward to hearing your story!
The Process of Change: How Therapy Fosters Growth and Transformation
The Process of Change: How Therapy Fosters Growth and Transformation
Introduction
Change is an inevitable part of life, yet it is often accompanied by uncertainty and resistance. Whether we seek transformation due to personal struggles, emotional distress, or a desire for self-improvement, the process of change can feel overwhelming. Fortunately, therapy provides a structured and supportive environment to facilitate meaningful and lasting change.
In this blog, we explore how therapy supports the process of change and how the therapeutic relationship itself can be a powerful catalyst for transformation.
The Role of the Therapeutic Relationship
One of the most crucial elements of therapy is the relationship between the client and therapist. A strong, trusting connection allows individuals to feel safe as they explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. According to Carl Rogers, a pioneering figure in psychology, three essential elements must exist within this relationship to promote positive change:
1. Unconditional Positive Regard
Clients need to feel accepted, valued, and respected, regardless of their thoughts, feelings, or past experiences. When individuals are met with nonjudgmental support, they are more likely to embrace their vulnerabilities and work toward self-improvement.
2. Empathy
A therapist’s ability to truly understand and validate a client’s emotions fosters trust and connection. Empathy encourages individuals to express themselves freely, knowing that they are being heard and understood without fear of criticism.
3. Congruence (Authenticity)
A therapist’s genuineness and transparency set the foundation for an open and honest dialogue. When a therapist models authenticity, clients feel encouraged to bring their true selves into the therapeutic space.
The Stages of Change in Therapy
While each person’s journey is unique, the process of change often follows a pattern. Psychologists Prochaska and DiClemente developed the Stages of Change Model, which outlines the phases individuals go through when making significant life changes:
Precontemplation – At this stage, individuals may not recognize the need for change or may feel resistant to it. Therapy helps bring awareness to patterns that may be holding them back.
Contemplation – Clients begin to acknowledge the need for change but may still feel uncertain or ambivalent. Therapists support clients in exploring their motivations and potential barriers.
Preparation – At this point, individuals are ready to take steps toward change. Therapy helps them set realistic goals and create actionable plans.
Action – Clients actively implement new behaviors and coping strategies. The therapist provides guidance, encouragement, and accountability.
Maintenance – Sustaining change is often the most challenging phase. Therapy helps reinforce progress, prevent relapse, and build resilience for the future.
Overcoming Resistance to Change
Even when we want to change, it can feel difficult and uncomfortable. Our minds are wired to seek familiarity and security, making new behaviors feel uncertain. Therapy provides strategies to navigate this resistance, such as:
Identifying limiting beliefs – Exploring self-doubt and fears that may be preventing change.
Practicing self-compassion – Accepting that setbacks are part of the journey.
Building self-awareness – Understanding triggers and patterns that need to be addressed.
Developing coping strategies – Learning techniques to manage stress, anxiety, or other emotions tied to change.
Final Thoughts
Change is a journey, not a destination. While it may come with challenges, the right support system can make a profound difference. Therapy offers a safe and structured environment where individuals can explore their struggles, embrace authenticity, and develop the skills needed for meaningful transformation.
If you’re looking to navigate change in your life, seeking professional support can be an empowering step toward growth and healing.
